This memorial website was created in the memory of our daughter, Alexandra Gayle Webster who was born in Virginia on September 29, 2005 and passed away of SIDS on December 15, 2005 . Alexandra was the light of our family's life. We all were so happy to have this beautiful little girl in our life. She has two brothers, Thomas and Jacob who both loved her very much and miss her everyday. She was named for her two great grandmothers on her mothers side. She has lots of family that loved her very much and miss her, including her Mother and Father, Gran and Pop, lots of Aunts and Uncles, and lots of cousins. We all misses her deeply and will remember her forever. Please visit her legacy for SIDS information. 


You have a brother and a sister on the way. Our sweet angel, please watch over them and help them to arrive into this world safely and healthy. We love you and know that you are the reason that we have been blessed with 2 more children to love. Your new brother Isaac Gregory and your new sister Isabel Grace will know they have a sister in heaven to always watch over them and who loves them very much. 


Isabel Grace and Isaac Gregory were born on Sept. 19 2007. Your sister was born at 8:09am 7lbs 4oz and your brother was born at 8:11am 5lbs 14oz. We are all doing great and wish you were here to help us welcome them into our family. We know that you are watching over them from heaven and are keeping them safe in our arms. Love you very much little girl.


Your Story.....

Alexandra was a very unexpected gift in our life. We were not planning on having anymore children but you were meant to be born. I had not been feeling well then on Feb. 14th 2005 valentines day, I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. I could not believe it. Your older brother was just 7 months old. I was not sure how we were going to handle 2 so close together. Daddy was also shocked but very happy that we had been blessed with another child. Your 2 brothers were conceived with help from lots of fertility treatments and drugs. So when you came all by yourself with no outside help, we know you were meant to be. The next few months went by and we decided that our house was just too small for 3 kids so we decided to sell our house. In May 2005 we found out that we were having a girl. It was the best day. We were so excited that you were healthy and a girl. Our family was finely complete. 2 boys and a girl. Your oldest brother Thomas was so happy to be getting a little sister. I went a little crazy with the pink and purple stuff. Daddy was happy that I was going to have with you what he had with the boys. He was also happy to have a girl to wrap around his little finger and one day walk down the isle. I was happy to have someone to go shopping with and have our nails done. A little girl to share all my secrets with. I had lost both of my grandmothers in early 2005 so I asked Daddy if I could name you after them. He said sure it was only right. So Alexandra Gayle was your name. The summer of 2005 was very busy. You were coming and we were moving to a new home. We sold the house in Aug. and move to the new house in Sept. 2005. Just one week before you were born. All of your family helped move us in and get things put away for you so that Mommy could rest. I went into the hospital on Sept 29th 2005 at 6:30am, we were being endued. You were almost 3 weeks early because you were getting too big. They started the meds at 8:30am and things went along as planned and you started to come, it was about 11:30am and daddy step out of the room for a few minutes to get some lunch and I started to have a lot of pain so they called him back. Then Gran went out to get some lunch around noon. Well you started to come and your Gran was not back yet. They started to call for her and she was not coming and you were. We waited and the doctor, a friend of the family, was in the hallway said lets go the baby is coming to Gran. So Gran come in and I pushed and you were born. 12:40pm you were beautiful at 8lbs 2oz and 21ins long. I loved you so much and everyone was so happy that you were here. A little girl to spoil. You breastfeed right away and we got to hold you for about 1 hour before the hospital took you to do all they do to new babies. We spent 2 days in the hospital and everyone came to visit. When we brought you home your brothers were so happy. Thomas loved to hold you and kiss you. Jacob was just 15 months old so he just looked at you a lot. The next few weeks went by so fast. I went back to work part time after 9 weeks. You went to the babysitters house with your brother's. On Dec. 14th, I had your Christmas pictures taken with your brothers. It was so great, you were beautiful. On Dec. 15th, I got you and your brothers ready to go to the sitters for the day. Thomas went to preschool and you and Jacob went to the sitters. I call the sitter around 12:30pm and could not reach her but I just thought she was busy with the kids. Then daddy called me at 2:30pm and said that you had been taken to the hospital because you were having trouble breathing. Your brother Jacob was getting over RSV so I just thought you were getting it too. I left work and headed for the hospital. Then I told daddy to call me when he got there to let me know what was happening. He did not call. So I called the hospital and they would not tell me anything. Just to get there safe. We were having a storm and it was raining really bad. I called my mom your Gran and told her what was happening. I got to the hospital and someone was waiting for me at the door and they led me to a room where daddy was waiting. He just said that we lost you. We lost our little girl. We all cried a lot. After that everything changed. We had to call our family and tell them what had happened. We waited a long time and your aunts come to be with us at the hospital and my dear friend came too. We had to talk to the doctor that tried to save you, the police because you passed at the sitters house, and lots of others. Then they finely let us hold you. I just remember thinking you were so cold and I could not do anything to warm you up. We sat with you and rocked you for a long time. Then we left. I hating leaving you there alone but the nurse said that someone would stay with you until the corner come. Then next few days were crazy. We planned your services, we were in so much pain. We were never alone, family was always with us. We had the viewing on Sunday, Dec. 18th 2005. So many people came to say goodbye and give us support. We laid you to rest at 11am and then had your services at 4pm on Dec. 19th 2005. It was a beautiful service. Me, daddy, your brothers, gran, great aunt sally all wrote letters to you. The chapel was packed. You were loved so much. I can not believe how much people gave to us during those 1st few months after you left us.  We knew it was SIDS from the beginning. There were no signs that you had been harmed and we knew the sitter loved you so much.  Everything pointed to SIDS.  I'm not sure why this happened to you and us and I will not know on this side of heaven.  But I know that I have more trust and faith in God now then I ever did before.  I have to believe there is a reason for all this pain and I know that it will come to me oneday.  Your life will mean something more, it will mean something to a lot of people oneday.  Our sweet angel Alexandra Gayle Webster rest in peace in heavens nursery and we will be joined again in heaven when God calls us home.  I can not wait for that day so that I can hold you again in my arms forever.  Love Mommy








We Thought Of You Today

We thought of you today,
But that is nothing new
We thought of you yesterday
And will tomorrow, too.
We think of you in silence
And make no outward show.
For what it meant to lose you
Only those who love you know.
Remembering you is easy,
We do it everyday.
It's the heartache of losing you
That will never go away.




If I could have a lifetime wish,
A dream that would come true,
I'd pray to God with all my heart
for yesterday and you.
A thousand words can't bring you back;
I know because I've tried.
And neither will a million tears,
I know because I've cried.
You left behind a broken heart
And happy memories too.
I never wanted memories,
I only wanted you.
An angel In The Book of Life
Wrote down my baby's birth
And whispered as She closed The Book
"Too beautiful for Earth.



Dear Mr Postman,
can you send a letter from me
I need it sent from up above to my earthly family
Please send it quick, my mummy's sad, I hate to see her cry
Every night she prays to God and sadly asks him why.

Please let it say, I could not stay, with an angel I had to go
I'm fine, I'm happy here with the other babies I know
I hope it reads to Daddy, I know you love me too
I miss you lots and all the things that we had planned to do.

Grandma, how I'll miss your hugs and kisses planned for me
I know how much you'll miss the growing child that I should be
Close it with I love you so, I'm with you in your heart
I never really left you see, I was an angel from the start.


My Mom is a Survivor

My Mom is a survivor,                             
or so I've heard it said.
But I can hear her crying at night 
when all others are in bed.

I watch her lay awake at night
and go to hold her hand.
She doesn't know I'm with her
to help her understand.

But like the sands on the beach
that never wash away . . .
I watch over my surviving mom,
who thinks of me each day.

She wears a smile for others . . .
a smile of disguise!
But through Heaven's door I see
tears flowing from her eyes.

My mom tries to cope with death
to keep my memory alive.
But anyone who knows her knows
it is her way to survive.

As I watch over my surviving mom
through Heaven's open door . . .
I try to tell her that angels
protect me forevermore.

I know that doesn't help her . . .
or ease the burden she bears.
So if you get a chance, go visit her . . .
and show her that you care.

For no matter what she says . . .
no matter what she feels.
My surviving mom has a broken heart
that time won't ever heal